Does charity ever begins at home?

Has it ever happened to you guys, that you are pissed at someone, but someone else gets super mad at you for feeling that way? I fail to understand why people have to meddle so much in the private lives of other people? Why does gender supremacy matter so much to some people? yet they advocate fairness and equality most of the time. People come here talking about respect and they forget the basic rule that respect is never demanded or commanded but always earned. Is a civilized person supposed to meddle in between the private matters of others and then get angry because they were not given the "respect" they deserved?

And then what should be done with them?  who should be the bigger person?