PDA - nonsense or necessity

To hold or not to hold...hands, that is.
Public Display of Affection or PDA is showing your love and affection to your partner out in public places like restaurants, clubs through physical touch like holding hands, hugging or kissing.

What I really want to talk about in this post is how the level of PDA varies in people from country to country. I have moved from India to China a few months ago and it has given me a real good opportunity to observe people from all over the world. I mean Shenzhen truly is THE most developing place right now. It's attracting people from all over the world be it musicians, IT Engineers, teachers or businessmen.

I see it, every time I go to shopping streets, beaches, malls and clubs, and I think 'get a room you idiot', 'oh that's so sweet'. You cannot have just one feeling about this. These people made me say, "sweeet", "huh!..ok", "awww", "yuckkk", "what the hell!!".  I just had to put some thinking into this whole idea.



I feel Westerners are touchy people. Look at the way they greet each other. Hugs and kiss on cheeks are so common even if they are meeting for the first time. Asians are reserved and greet others formally with very less physical contact. Kissing and hugging in public is socially unacceptable in most of the Asian countries. A very small part of gay community comes out in the open. But it is not fair to generalize. Many young Asian couples look more open to accepting and showing it. Is it a Western thing? I will let you think about that. Some religions prohibit public display of affection.

So is PDA a bad thing?  I have seen so many people do it just to look 'cool'. Studies have shown that couples showing public display of their affection tend to be more active and happy in their relationship. More affections creates more satisfaction. Why not? You really like this person and you are not scared to show your affection in public to your partner. Before making any judgments you have to understand the basic nature of PDA. It's about you and your partner. It has nothing to do with other people. That said, there are some etiquette s you need to observe. You cannot make the people around you feel uncomfortable. Think about how you are in the company of your close friends and partner. It is a very healthy way of embracing your relationship. It's all about you. Whether you do it not, you should be happy and mustn't judge anyone.

In a relationship it's not about the big things. The great gestures, the public display of affection. It's all the small things, pieces together, one by one. Like a puzzle, it's no fun unless the pieces are small and the challenge is high. The little things in life are what makes life worth living. Making memories, one step at a time.


I was going to Procrastinate today, but I'll do it tomorrow

When I had written my first post I felt this is so easy! I would post every week.

I am writing my second post almost after 30 days of my previous post.

Believe me guys when I say that I did write 'Write a post on SimplyLife' in my To Do List several times. I would sit down, write a couple of sentences for the new post, but struggle to complete it. My mind would simply become blank. I had almost given up.

What is it that stopped me from pursuing to write a simple post? It is not that I need some special sort of  'skill' oozing out to write something. 

Have you even started working on something new besides the job that you do for a living? You feel so happy when you attend the first workshop, lecture or create your first poem, article. You feel a new zeal. The creativity flows like blood within you. How many of you succeed in making to the second round??

Resistance, the enemy within!

Resistance is the force within you which takes many forms. It exists to prevent our creative being from taking control of our self.

The following activities elicit resistance in our daily lives:
1) Failing to stick to a particular diet.
2) Unable to hit the gym/yoga routine.
3) Following a healthy routine.
4) Never finding the time to complete that book we started.

We all suffer defeat at the hands of Resistance more than once. It's just like a hitch that makes us too weak to pursue our creative ambitions. 

We have to understand the basic nature of Resistance, our biggest enemy before we stand up against it to take control of our life.
Resistance is an invisible unbiased force which influences all of us. It targets our genius. 
Resistance has no strength of its own. It's biggest weapon is our fear. Fear of the consequences of following our heart. The biggest fear we feel is that our social circle would not approve of our venture. The fear of critics. The fear of falling below our expectation. We need to admit to ourselves the power and resources of the resistance first. Resistance should not be underestimated. It is working against us at all times and it becomes vicious when we approach our goal.   

Resistance can be beaten.
No matter how blank you feel, you need to sit down daily and devote time to your endeavor to overcome resistance. You have to start thinking like a professional from day 1. A pro is dedicated to his work, he doesn't procrastinate. You have to stop paying attention to the What ifs in you mind. The Bhagavad-Gita tells us we have a right only to our labor, not to the fruits of our labor. You must be patient and not let passion burn out of control. You can beat Resistance at its own game by being even more resolute and even more implacable than it is. 
Job Switch to China


Ha ha ha ha.. seriously? You are going to work in China!!!!
This was the reaction of my boss when he called me after I had submitted my resignation. After some discussion he was convinced and approved my resignation.

I just had a thought in my mind, 'Okay! China. How difficult could it be!' With Google's translator app, I reached China. wuhuu!!

#First Meal
So it was obvious it would be noodles :) But wait,
Having not eaten anything for 20 hours I struggled with the bowl of tomato egg noodles. I gave up after 5 minutes got it packed, bought a fork and enjoyed my meal in my hotel :)

That's when I started taking seriously that it's China! But don't worry, eating with chopsticks is actually very easy and thanks to my awesome Chinese friends, I have had some awesome Asian food here.
Dumplings
Mushrooms

Spicy beef

Duck

Chau-fan(Fried rice)
 
Noodles

More to come in next post till then, be happy and and make others happy :)
 Zai-jian